“And as stated, the seculars receive far more government monetary benefits.”
Repeating this again and again won’t make it true. The secular are more educated and represented in the workforce, pay more in taxes and receive less benefit than the charedim do.
In regards to secular gratitude, you can’t expect those who aren’t raised with Torah to innately appreciate its benefits. They need to be taught by example and with love. Rioting, spitting, name-calling and demanding are not effective teaching tools.