Reply To: Working boys and shidduchim

Honestly, there is nothing I’d like to do more than start shidduchim now.
But I feel the smartest thing is to have a viable parnassah before.
I don’t have a fallback option like others do.
I know that I can’t be supported financially by my parents.

I’m from out of town, and went to an established yeshiva out of town.
I was actually the only bochur from my city.
To get home I would rent a car.
I had to pay for that myself (occasionally my parents did give me something towards that)
I earned money by checking the eruv and learning mishnayos with an elementary school boy.

I don’t expect (or really want) to be supported by my in-laws.

Hence, I feel the need to have a parnassah first.