==Most people I KNOW who are in kollel/looking for kollel, know what they are getting into.==
they don’t know, they think it means an old car
young people have no idea how expensive the world is today and the frum world 3x as much, part of the problem is that childhood is all school, so one has no sense how hard it is to earn money
parents need to show kids the rent bill
the tuition bill
6 kids times $12,000 each for yeshivish school, $25,000 for modern, that’s $72,000 after tax, means you need 100k a year just to pay tuition