@Syag, (how ironic that you’re such a frequent poster with such a name)
“Why cant you understand the premise of this whole thread – people who DO NOT agree with or approve of Chabad practices are ASKING for clarity on some of the points they HAVE BEEN TAUGHT are problematic.”
I get that. When I try tell you that something isn’t Chabad practice, you just get upset, this is not your first time making this comment. I’m very happy to explain legitimate Chabad Hashkofos to you, but there’s no need to lash out like that when you don’t like the explanation.
Talking about reaching out to other people, when I meet non religious Yidden, they are almost always more respectful than you are to unfamiliar customs. I think it’s your personality, not your hashkafos. If chas vesholom, you were the non religious guy who’s door I knocked on, you’d be the guy who throws me out even before I get to say what I’m doing there.