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You wrote: “Why do you call them “hooligans”, “laydig gayers”, and “a bizayon”?
They’re cholim! Have rachmanus!”
Glad you asked. The choleh that gets treatment is the one who seeks help, or struggles with that because of personal suffering. They are not claiming tzidkus while damaging others. When pure yetzer horah dresses as a tzaddik, the problem is greater. If HKB”H wishes to consider that as a choleh, He can certainly do so. We cannot. We are not experiencing his illness, we are experiencing his violence and damage being inflicted on others. There needs to be zero tolerance. As far as yenem’s spirituality, we have little to no control. Our limitations on tochachah are severe, and the efficacy of that is also poor. It is the rare exception when a doctor can successfully treat the resistant patient. As long as anyone conveys to these thugs that they are doing something holy, they will trash their learning to be busy being לוחם מלחמות השם. That’s what they did here. If this behavior gets rewarded, it will continue.
I am all for therapy, and recognizing that OTD kids are cholim. I still hold them responsible for their behavior. The OTD kid that steals money from the parents to finance their vices is still liable. The illness does not absolve them of responsibility for their actions.