“in der heim they held so”
In the Torah, Gemorah and Shulchan Aruch it says so.
“woman should be part of society”
That was never c”v Sarah Shnirrer’s goal. She created schools for girls, something never done before in Jewish history, due to a shas hadchak of girl going off the derech. At the time you had families where after the husband made kiddush Friday night, the wife r”l went to the movie theatre.
“well today most rabbonim hold that women should go out in the world to work and get educated either with college or hi position jobs”
This is patently false. Rav Moshe, Rav Aharon and so many other Chareidi Gedolim past and present have railed against college.