1. I made this account when I was 14. I haven’t the faintest memory or idea why I have this username. But people here know me as this, so I haven’t changed it.
2. I live in Israel, my own family and most people I know live month by month, with limited money, getting one outfit for pseach and one for sukkos. Please don’t throw accusations around me, all I did was say what I personally think when I hear a bochur works in a store.
3. Most of the people working in stores over here are etheopians, arabs, and people who aren’t frum. It may very well be different else where, besides sefarim, suit stores, telephone stores…and maybe in the supermarkets, most of the workers are what I said above, at least in the area I live in. This is not only what I see, but everyone else in my city. If you live in a place where they are bochurim stacking shelves in the local dollar store, than great!
4. Black and white is a separate topic, regardless of whatever the bochur is doing. That’s something I’d check out with anyone, a store working bochur is no different.
5. Wait, you can’t afford to stay in yeshiva? Is the tuition too high? All I want is someone who learns. Whether it’s a shuir, by himself, chavrusa, with his rabbi, in the amazon rainforest, I don’t care. I never said anything about yeshivah. But if someone is NOT in yeshivah, I would like to know why, that’s all. Not such an insane request…is it?
6. 7-15 people…Um, you, your wife, and 5 kids is 7. I believe 5 is the average frum family in Israel. I’m being realistic. My neighbor’s oldest child is 6, and they have 4, and they have 5 kids. Who is to say that will not happen to me? It’s not my cheshbon. Also, my family is going to be paying ZERO support. Nothing, zilch. So….rent, food, everything will be on my husband. I will definitely help out as much as I can, but once I have kids, I need to first be a mother.
I hope you understand me clearer now.