Reply To: Expectant couple

iacisrmmaParticipant
T22T: It seems that even you agree one doesn’t have to state the exact due date. As I stated above (#1526704) we told our parents around a certain time period, not an exact date. If you tell your friends the expected date and don’t tell your parents then I can see that as a zilzul of your parents kavod.
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My question is 2 fold.
One what is the minhag based on ,assuming there is even a minhag.2)
Even if yoi wont give an exact date, why cant you give an approximation. +/- 2 weeks. I know people who over all very logical/mentchlich people ,but when it comes to telling parents/ inlaws they act as if its non of your business to ask or know. Not only that, the parents find out about the pregnancy when everyone else does.
Ill share a story i heard 1st hand from a mother.
Mother:
We want to go on vacation to israel but we dont want it to interfere with your wife giving birth, can you tell us around when she is due?
Son:
Tell me when you plan on going and i let u k ow if it interferes.
From what i hear the parents were livid.