LC, I don’t know what circles you run in, but your comment does not reflect the situations that I know, and I think you are being wrongly judgemental and maligning a whole generation of girls.
When I was single and dating (many years ago, before the term shidduch crisis was coined), I knew many wonderful, good girls, who were attractive and had great personalities who had a hard time. For me, dating 5-6 boys a year was normal, and I think it was similar for many of my friends. Many weeks, sometimes even months, went by with no suggestions, no phone calls, lots of dead ends. It wasn’t because I had an unrealistic fantasy or thought too highly of myself, and I don’ think that was true of any of my single friends.
I don’t know any girl who is holding out for someone with big bucks. If they are still young, then so is the boy, and who would expect a 23 yr old to already have a top paying job? If anything, the opposite is true, as has been said before on the CR in various threads. Sincere girls come home from seminary wanting to marry a good learner, top boy who will stay in kollel. In order to make their dreams work, they will go to college and/or get good jobs, so they can support their families while their husbands learn. Since it is far easier to be a top girl than a top boy, and there just aren’t enough top guys to go around. Which is why whitecar and I would venture to guess the OP had it/are having it hard, they don’t fit the bill of that top learner that the girls have been taught to want to marry. At some point, as the girls get older, and fewer of the guys are in long-term learning, they have to re-evaluate their priorities, and will give up on their seminary dreams, as reality changes the situation.