I don’t think it’s impossible to have a true platonic relationship with someone of the opposite gender, but it is extremely difficult. In almost all cases, yes, the male involved will be thinking those things (you know what I’m referring to.)
I can say from personal experience that there was one girl I had a platonic relationship with. How did it work? Because I didn’t find her the least bit attractive. 0%. Since I really didn’t find her attractive at all, I was able to have a platonic relationship with her.
With every other girl I knew when I was younger, it didn’t work that way. Even if I didn’t find them super attractive, there was always that small amount, which would lead to those thoughts. I didn’t have many friends of the opposite gender – it was more like some of them were within the same group of friends I was in. We would sometimes all go out together, but I definitely didn’t have a relationship where I’d hang out 1-on-1 with them, like I did with my guy friends.
So like I said, it’s not impossible, but it’s extremely difficult. There needs to be no attraction whatsoever, and that is very rare.
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