Reply To: RH is MIL’s first Yahrzeit…how should we adjust traditional celebration?

Yes, I have asked Mrs. CTL what she wants, and to be blunt, she would prefer that the yuntif would be over with already. She has no enthuasim for the preparation and tumult of all the family together. Yet, I feel she will miss it, if after all these years we downplay the holidays.

and as for Avi K, you may have read I posted about the Shabbos and Sunday morning before RH when the family would all be here as well.

Last year was horrendous, as MIL was niftara during the seuda in our home and nothing could be done until Tzom Gedalia. Mrs. CTL is also concerned the youngest grandchildren might have trepidation sitting down to the yuntif meal and wondering if another tragedy will occur.