An exerpt from a letter written by a survivor posted on jewish community watch:
Posted on August 23, 2018
Dear Rabbonim,
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While I agree that smart phones without a filter can be a potential danger, it doesn’t come close to the physical, emotional and religious danger of abusing a vulnerable minor. At worst, the victim will either commit suicide or go off the derech and at best they would live their life as a frum Jew but everyday would be a struggle to get through the day. Every day would be a new battle necessitating new gear to plow through yet another day of the devastating effects of abuse. Another day of triggers and flashbacks that have such extreme power.
I know this battle because I’m a soldier fighting in its war every single day. No, I didn’t end my life. No, I didn’t go off the derech. No, I didn’t get into drugs or other pain numbing behaviors. Instead I chose to fight the battles head on. They don’t stop and don’t get easier. It takes years and years until there is a slightly noticeable difference in the severity of the battles. Yes, every day is a battle as there is not a day that goes by that I don’t struggle from my childhood abuse.
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When was the last time you had a nightmare and woke up sweating and had a migraine all day from the nightmare? When was the last time you had a trigger experience while driving and needed to pull over to cry it out? When was the last time you felt so overwhelmed with grief and sadness that you wanted to just end your life? This and so much more is what we go through each and every day.
This has nothing to do with the “shidduch crisis”.