yitzchokm:
Your sarcasm does not reflect much intellect, just a poor effort at humor. It’s not about Dr. Spock feel good stuff. It’s about the great guidance of our Chachomim how to raise children. And the failures to follow their guidance are extreme. Sadly, the yeshivos that follow their directions are few and far between. That’s not what they say in their fundraising and publicity efforts.
Divorce is always a choice. And the broad brush that this is the favorite approach of therapists is fictional. Rather, there is always an effort to reconcile a marriage that has even minimal potential. Talk to some therapists, and then address the issue. You are pushing agendas that have nothing to do with fact. That is frankly foolish. The best environment for raising children consists of several elements. The spiritual is one. The harmonious one is another. There are kids who are resilient, and manage well in life despite difficult pasts. Not all victims of abuse are scarred for life. Not all children of divorced homes are damaged goods. Does that suggest to promote or tolerate abuse or divorced? Is this the senselessness that supports your sarcasm?
There is unfair and undue stigma to divorce, and yeshivos are part of it. They can serve well as part of the solution, but are often part of the problem. No, divorce is not good. Many times, it is the healthier alternative to a home of constant strife, divisiveness, and chaos. And stop knocking professionals. There are rotten apples in that barrel, as in any other group of people. But on the whole, they can do much to help people make rational decisions in their lives, and reach decisions with responsibility, not knee jerk reactions. They can help the couples who do divorce do so without the ugly conflicts that destroy children (if their directions would only be followed).