“Involving a Rav or BD before the civil divorce is common practice.”
CTL admitted that he wasn’t speaking strictly of the frum community in regards to his experiences (specifically ravs not being involved). The rest of the thread seemed to be mainly focusing on frum communities.
“a classic delay tactic used by either spouse is to block efforts at proceeding to a get by claiming to want “shalom bayis”.”
Can you explain what you mean by this? What ulterior motive do they have to delay to proceedings? While we’re talking about stigmas, why is there this stigma on one party trying to stop the divorce from happening? Breakups are never mutual; why is the one side who wanted to stay married always villainized, especially if it’s the man? I’m actually asking, not trying to be argumentative.
“The concept of a halachic pre-nup is to avoid such charades.”
This wouldn’t really apply to the frum communities being discussed by most posters or the very non-religious clients that CTL might have to deal with. It’s only a very thin group within the Jewish world that would use this.