Joseph:
You are misunderstanding me. I still vote in favor of shalom bayis, and making a sincere effort to reconcile. I am not pro-divorce. Yet, many, many cases of marriages that are long since dead due to abuse or infidelity encounter the “shalom bayis” claim. These are not at all based on halacha, and the need to proceed with the get is recognized by rabbonim and dayanim universally. All that happens is that the process gets delayed. I do not have any hesitation in cases where there is a chance, even remote, of reconciliation. But it is easily exploited as another version of abuse. Ask around by dayanim with experience. They have all observed this, and all will recognize the tactic. Halacha does not protect this, and there is no siman in Shulchan Aruch that supports the exploitation of halacha to continue abuse.