No, the parents are the ones projecting priorities. The priority of staying frum over everything including sanity and well being. I’m not talking about moderate sheltering here. I’m also not talking about an alternate society like the Chassidim have where it can work. What I’m talking about is Litvish parents who expect their children to succeed in the normal, working world, but make it impossible for them to connect to people.
We can talk about reality here. We both know there are frum yidden who “have their priorities straight,” and still are not happy. The older generations pushing their children into getting abjectly worse secular educations than what they received does not help anything. I’m not sure how you interpreted my opinion, but it obviously was not supportive of fully, unlimited, unsheltered upbringings. If you’re bothered by any criticism of sheltering I have to assume you support the full-throttle sheltered upbringing that produces fully grown men who write emails that look like they were written by a 12-year-old because they got a proper 21st century yeshiva education.