Joseph:
“Completely OT, CS, but now that you mention your family background I better understand your strong headed feminism and your incongruous attempts to reconcile it with Judaism.”
I’m not usually as critical of you as others are, but that’s a pretty horrible thing to say. Maybe I’m misunderstanding, but it sounds like you’re saying “Now that I know that your parents are BT’s, it makes sense that your bad at being frum and have ideas contrary to yiddishkeit.” You’re making a blanket assumption that BT’s carry baggage (like feminism) with them from their previous life if I understand correctly.