“If the numbers don’t match up, you can’t just pretend they do.”
Of course not.
But when the numbers do match up or at least can. You can’t just pretend that in reality all 23 year olds only marry 19 year olds and that once all 23 year olds are taken any extra 19 year olds can’t go out with anyone 16 -22 (obviosuly I mean once the 16 year olds are older ) .
This fixed system, while it is some cute math and I get its attraction, it just doesn’t describe reality
you want the problem to have a simple solution, so you just put up bilndfolds and imagine a simplistic problem. the fact that it doesnt describe reality is not a deterrent, because yo u went it to be true .
Theres an older name for this belief its called “alternative facts”
(BTW I dont deny the Shidduch crises I deny the Age Gap™ as being a main cause .