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“I disagree that that’s what most people mean.”
I don’t have data, but (almost?) every article IVe read on the subject defines it that way eg see wikipedia
“The Shidduch crisis is a commonly observed and discussed phenomenon in the Orthodox Jewish community whereby eligible single persons, especially women, have difficulty finding a suitable spouse.”
“Do you deny that there are a lot more older single girls than boys?”
i’m skeptical, those I’Ve spoken to all know more boys but admittedly I havent spoken to many shadchanim, “everybody” says there are more girsl, SO i concede that it ver ywell may be true and that although I and those around me do not see that, I must have a biased sample . (especially considering that logically more girls makes sense, see below)
“Do you deny that based on how our current shidduch system works (now how it theoretically could work, but how it does actually play out) there aren’t enough boys for the girls?”
I dont fully understand the question. There are “enough” but the way our system works puts a long delay on each individual girl getting a date, then the dating period lasts a long time. A Girl can go over the course of a year having dated 3-4 guys (and thats the lucky ones) As time moves on their do become less guys available but this is BECAUSE of our system.
So to directly answer your question, based on how our current shidduch system works No there arent enough boys for the girls nor are can there ever be. This is a falw in the system not the number