“we would very possibly cause the boys to have lower expectations,”
“I think cutting down the gap is a very difficult thing to do.”
Thats a tough sell, you are advocating for a change that you admit is “very difficult” that would only “very possibly” actually help what the real problem is.
But ok, Lets try it I’m all for trying anything,
Though long can I expect to wait unti l real solutions are attempted? Ie either, that until you realize that either the gap wasn’t the problem or that it is impossible to correct.
10 years? 20? 50?
As to some other points youve raised:
“Do you think the age gap theory math is wrong,”
I think it is simplistic and while it would explain shidduch island or musical chairs with a fixed number of chairs and players it doesn’t explain the real world