I think we need to get people to meet more
At meals by mutual friends
at weddings
speed dating
singles events
The amount of effort, begging research etc just for a couple to go out is absurd.
At least by chasidim once they “go out” odds are almost certain that they’ll get married
Weve managed to combine the bad part of chasidish dating with the bad part of modern dating and we have this crazy system where there is so much effort just to get a couple to go out. and even once they do go out it is more likely than not that the shiduch wont progress.
We need to either get people to relax their criteria before going out, or the opposite enhance the criteria so once it is agreed to go out they will most likely marry .
I think the first is more realistic though I’m fine with either.