Winnie, I agree with everything you said. That is what a great parent should be doing and when done correctly and with patience (which admittedly is difficult) that usually works.
However let’s revisit what the original question was
”How about screaming at them so that they will obey, if they otherwise wouldn’t? ”
(hitting was also brought up)
So the question in simple form is, is hitting and or screaming
At your children ”verboten ”
I don’t think it was a question of
Is the right way of parenting to be a raging tiger to your kids.
So we return to the question.
If after trying all the wonderful and correct ways Winnie so eloquently laid out your child still won’t confirm, what do you do now ?