I am a bochur who has been trying to get married since my 21st birthday. I am almost 24 and still single. Unlike the rov of my chevre, I am a bechor in my family which means that I do not have the luxury of being set up by siblings’ in-laws.
Yet my engaged and married friends who have the option of being משדך by their married siblings’ in-laws are the ones whom the shadchanim take more seriously, while the בכורים are being left behind and forced to remain single longer!!