Outsider:
” Just because I hang out with these people doesn’t mean I am automatically them. ”
Your right, it duz not happen the first time you hang out or the second or the third but over time it causes you to change.
When you say ‘respect’ when it comes to some one who is conservative, there is a difference between respect and becoming there best friend, you can respect them from a distance.
Also, my personal opinion on your view on woman is that you are convincing yourself that to hang out with girls is ok because it takes away your teives. I f you want to hang out with girls, at least dont tell yourself that its a mitzva and that its a good thing for you!