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The yeshiva world is facing a problem of epic magnitude.
The rabbanim such as rav shach z’l rav kotler z’l rav kamenetzky and many other great zaddikim were all dissemenators of pure daas torah and would be sgocked by some of the things we are seeing today.
I want to make clear that bli ayn hara the frum world is thriving in all areas and the huge growth is a credit to this success.
However in terms of shidduchim
What we are seeing, not everywhere, but in many places is shameful and very saddening.
Most notably about the money issue.
That is the fact that some parents are willing to marry their children to someone partially or solely because of financial status or profession of the other side is as mind boggling as it is depressing.
I know a number of people who married for money when after the marriage either they lost their money, which made the person feel all the goodness of the partner was gone, so they divorced, or they were ruch but did bot share the money with the couple, again resulting in divorce.
Are people that immature that when marrying a partner to fulfill a spiritual goal would primarily consider something as shallow and transient as money??