OOh so many questions!
LB
“Is it possible for a husband to bring down his wife’s Yiddishkeit or closeness to Hashem?”
Of course!
“If a man is struggling in Yiddishkeit, is it always the wife’s fault?”
Of course not
“Does that mean that a husband’s closeness to Hashem, or lack thereof, is generally regarded as his wife’s doing or undoing? ”
I woudn’t go quite that far. People are influenced by their teachers/rabbeim parents friends all these play a role in shaping a person and in a normal situation a wife’s influence superseded them all, but that doesnt mean thats all there is.
Would it be disrespectful for me to ask the Rav (or another Rav) this question?
not at all
TLIK
“Rabbonim speak of how a wife can bring down a husband’s Yiddishkeit and closeness to Hashem.” Really? ”
Yes
“Who are these rabbonim, and how did they say this?”
almost every single Rav I’ve ever heard speak Parshas Korach, thye love the contras tbetween Korach’s wife and On ben Peles’s ver yclassic speech.
” How can anyone kidnap someone away from closeness to Hashem?”
Lots of ways.. for example, ” here try this forbidden apple the snake told me its really good, try it you’ll like it, don’t be such a wuss I had some, If you dont have any I’m going to cry etc etc” (I’m not saying this ever happened, just an example, the forbidden apple was orlah btw)
“If a man is struggling in Yiddishkeit, is it always the wife’s fault?” Are you joking? So who says viduy on Yom Kippur – only married women, but not their husbands? What ever happened to bechira?”
I dont understand the question. Being a meissi (convincing others to do avoda zarah) is an aveira. tha tdoesnt mean the sinner doesnt say vidui
” So all men’s aveiros are attributable to women? ”
nope
“When they divorce, do the women recite “Boruch Sheptorani”?”
nope
Hope that helps1
now tone it down a notch, take a deep breath you sound unhinged.