heimisheessence, Thanks, I’m glad you found my answer useful. Just to clear up in case it wasn’t so obvious, what I’ve written in my first paragraph is what I’ve heard from Rabbi Tatz, the second paragraph is my own opinion that I’ve come to after much observation, I do not remember Rabbi Tatz mentioning that in the droshes I heard of him talking on this topic but I could be wrong and he could have said it- I just don’t remember him saying it.
Rabbi Akiva Tatz has some very interesting droshes on Torah Anytime on the topic of shidduchim that I found very insightful. I listen to him on this topic (and many others) so that I can know how to guide my children in shidduchim. In my 45 years of age where I’ve seen, experienced, and questioned, I’m so impressed of Rabbi Tatz’s clarity that he provides on many confusing topics.