I’m confused becasue your rubric for evaluating bein adom lechaveiro aveiros isnt logical.
and you’re dodging the question
If I maim him without hitting him. eg I use the sam that Rashi refers to that gets rid of tzar so it is completely painless leg removal. in that case is it less bad than hitting.
More to the point though.
Is it wrong to hold up a finger to someone in a way that society deems disrespectful?
do I need a explicit maamor chazal to tell me that it is wrong?
“Severity means grade of issur not how much it hurts”
i’m not sure wha this means. we have already established that stealing a rich person’s sheep because you are hungry and have nothing to eat is the same grade of issur as stealing a poor person’s only sheep is the same grade of issur.
Yet obviously the latter did a far worse act and is a much bigger rasha than the former.