Actually it’s neither.
The real cause of divorce is cholent. Everything comes down to cholent. It’s too hot, it’s too cold, it doesn’t taste good, it’s overcooked, it’s raw, it’s burnt, it smells too strong, it doesn’t smell strong enough, he ate too much, she ate too little, he ate all the beans, she ate all the meat, they didn’t eat enough, there wasn’t enough left, there was too much left, the crockpot wasn’t cleaned, the crockpot was cleaned too much, he’s a crockpot, she’s a crockpot, etc. etc. etc.
Get rid of cholent, and you’ll instantly see happier marriages.