My opinion, if anyone cares…
First off, I wish a hearty mazel tov to the kallah and the chosson and families involved.
Now, It is my belief that we have become weak minded when we feel the need to throw random Mazel Tovs to a person we never met, and we dont even know if they actually exist (in the form portrayed anyway).
Of course we do this (as I have above) to share and encourage in this persons simcha. And that IS a beautiful thing. However, there is another angle to this. What lunacy is it to have a bunch of random people who dont know one another congratulate each other in a way that you have no idea who is congratulating you?
Would someone stop a random person in the street and say “hey i’m engaged”? I daresay most people would consider this outside the realm of normal behavior. So why is it different to post such on an anonymous group chat of people you have no idea?
As evidence to this, look at the type of ridiculous comments that followed not long after. My point is, this is only possible in a world where the virtual has become the reality and socially becomes off.
Now to be clear. To the kallah who posted it, I am not criticizing you at all. You presumably posted it in a spurt of “i want to shout it to the world” feeling which IS, absolutely normal. My point is, that in a healthy world people would see that and say “wow, thats one excited kallah” and go on, because the venue isnt apropos. (akin to a person who just got their long awaited direct deposit from their boss while waiting in the bank and then shouting “yes”). Only in a world where people take the virtual as reality and their feelings would possibly be hurt by anonymous strangers not responding would the reaction of my fellow coffee room ‘posters’ have to post as they did. And for that, we cry.
[please make sure you understand what i’m getting at before you respond in indignant fury, thank you]
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