This is dumb. Just because some people are control freaks doesn’t make anything the norm or anything close to a “minhag”.
B”H our community continues to grow, so even if the percentage of grandparents who want to control their children’s and grandchildren’s lives has gone down, the actual cases will likely have gone up.
The FJJ won’t get a higher readership level by printing letters from people who made shidduchim normally.
Bichlal, with CTL, it’s hard to know where reality ends and fantasy begins.