” It is the desecration of shabbos that really drives me away from eruvs”
Eruvim are mutar. They PREVENT shabbat desecration. And we pasken leniently as eruv is entirely a rabbinic innovation (admittedly from three thousand years ago). There is an entire tractate in the Oral Torah about it — in fact we are learning it now in Daf Yomi! (This will be the third time for me. 🙂 )