what an original question.
can’t be because girls want to marry talmidei chachamim, could it it? nah, it’s gotta be 2because of ‘the system’.
I’m not downgrading you or anyone else5who could do both, who still love learning. but when someone who doesn’t know you, particularly girls who know about learning only from high school and don’t realize there’s a middle ground, it’s logical to assume the full time learner is the bigger talmid chacham. and on a whole, it’s probably true too. I’m not saying it has to be so, also I’m not saying parmassa isn’t acceptable/commendable . just saying where they’re coming from.
learning more because of corona? full time learners learning less? taking your word as is, maybe it’s because easier for a 30 mph car to speed up and a 60 mph to 8slow? comprehendo?
now on to bashers of the whole ‘system’: why the stigma against illness? what type? something serious? is the answer not self explanatory? and mental illness? are you crazy? fat girls? sad as it may be , this isn’t a fault of the ‘system’. hippa laws were not written by the chafetz chayim.