Reply To: Can you erase my messages I mean your messages, I mean my…

First of all I’m not asking personal questions. This is a hypothetical topic.

Secondly yes speech cannot be erased in the terms of, Hashem knows everything. We are talking about bein adam lechavero in which typically a casual conversation that you have with someone is not going to be recorded or may even not be completely remembered by either of the parties.

Think before you speak very true. But nowadays people are used to communicating via text and even if you want to talk on the phone doesn’t mean a person can talk whenever you would like. People are married, have their own issues and so on. However many times they will be able to conduct a conversation via messaging since it doesn’t require an instant reply such as speech.

So naturally sometimes you are in the moment of a conversation or thought and you just continue the conversation even though you would rather it not be saved.

Yes it’s best to just ask someone if they can delete however many times simply bringing up such a request can cause a rift.

Yt-“If your not happy don’t use message services. You can’t ask someone to delete your messages, that’s not the way social media/ texting works.
(Unless it was really private. Or weird)”

What difference does it make then? If you can ask about that you should be able to ask about anything.

Bottom line is that there are some friends who you can usually just reach via text since either they are long distance, or working most of the day,family etc.
And you have no choice but to have a conversation via messaging. You can be careful with everything you send but then you will have to leave out 80% of what you actually needed to talk about. If you can have that conversation over speech then it wouldn’t be an issue of them having a record of it. Bit if you can message and have them delete the history right after the conversation the you wouldn’t have that issue.
Whatsapp specifically made a feature of disappearing messages and option to delete in real time because apparently people noticed that most of their communication and conversations are meant only for the moment and not to be looked over later on when it loses its context. But that’s just whatssap. There are many other messaging methods. Also if the feature was off so we are at the same point.

What’s regarding pictures that aren’t so flattering. Are you able to request a friend to delete them or crop you out? People are very sensitive and again simply asking these things can cause more issue then leaving it