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n0, seems like mods or internets cancelled my long response, or maybe I went over limit of allowed posts … I am all for (3), agree on 4,6,8. Some others sound like weak justifications for behaviors below high standard that Talmidei Chachamim are supposed to hold by:
2 – everything can be, but if you get a reasonable degree, you would usually be better off.
5 – I do not think it is our standard to take funds for poor people when you are capable of work and choose not to. Pub Ed is not discrimination against Jews, it is a public policy that we might not agree with and do not always use. Does not give us a license to grab something else. OK to advocate for public payments to private schools or use online public schools.
7 – if something is “out of question” either don’t use it or try to find funds to use it by working or asking for donation.
9 – Why is that? They can not find a job paying well enough? again, statistically not true and you know it.
If you have sources from the Gemorah to support those points, I’ll eat my shtreimel.