Two last connected items.
I DON”T live in a city.
There is no such thing as a “suburban dream city.’ A suburb is smaller than and subordinate to, and dependent on a city for things such as employment, cultural institutions such as museums, entertainment (legitimate theatre, symphony, opera, ballet), certain shopping, transportation hubs, and at times medical care.
My small town of about 40,000 people doesn’t have a hospital, a train station, museums, concert venues, a university, non-movie theatre, but all of these are available in the nearby city within a short drive.
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The fact that some people commute from one city (such as Stamford (where I don’t live) to another city (such as NYC or White Plains), doesn’t make Stamford into a suburb or the commuters into suburbanites.