I can’t imagine it is a Chiyuv.
Did you think the Amora who said his wife is a fulfillment of the Posuk of “motzey ani mar M’Moves es haisha…” and all the other Tannaim and Amoraim who are mentioned in the Gemora as being married to very difficult (and probably emotionally unstable) women loved them?
As the saying goes “If you want to be loved you have to be lovable”