Also, it’s painful to have to repeat it over and over…the mesilas yeshorims moshol; please try and listen and suspend preconceived notions for just one moment….what one person does affects all of us and is not “none of your business”
We all learned this in 7th grade. Please people; give the sefer another go, it’ll be worth it. The mesilas yeshorim is a life changing sefer, it truly is.
I’m reminded of a shmuz given by rabbi bentzion shafier. He spoke to a group of women and tried to deprogram them of the notion that they should change their husbands and make mentchen out of them. After the shmuz, he received emails saying that they loved his speech, but how then can we change our husbands?
Many, many women there completely missed the point. He was trying to change the perspective; unravel decades of neurological pathways – this was to little avail.
Same here – when it comes to tznius “don’t look!” Is so hopelessly ingrained that one might need a lobotomy to remove it. Or a good session of mesilas yeshorim, for about 2 years everyday.