If you read the rambaN literally, it sounds as if he’s saying Hashem doesn’t know the details of a person’s life aside from the big things…i honestly don’t know what the ramban means, but when something seems untenable from tanach and chazal, we don’t have permission to go with a literal reading of rishonim.
Also, I’m not maching avek the rishonim; I’m saying that any sugya needs interpretation based on the wide spectrum of chazal and tanach before being properly understood, precisely because we know that these rishonim knew these gemaros snd pesukim like the back of their hands.
Also, do you know any ehrliche person who lives their life thinking that things “just happen”? The mesorah is not childish, it’s a life of awareness of Hashem in every part of our lives that brings to both emunah and ahavas Hashem, when we think about how much Hashem cares about us and is constantly guiding our lives.
Hamaychin mitzadey gaver is another mekor, agav
I sgree that there should be a separate thread about this and women learning gemara.