Common; so according to you, being a productive member of society is more worthy of respect than keeping the mitzvos while being a bum/shlomazel/whate have you? That’s not “well you tolerate this lifestyle and i tolerate this one”, no. There’s a bigger difference than that.
Here’s my view – it’s clear from chazal and rishonim that we do not know the value of any other jew and it is arrogance to elevate one’s self above anyone, even kal shebekalim. This means that despite the various shitos about hating/loving, either way I do not feel that I am better than another jew. Azoi shtayt in rambam.
Your view – you can know if you’re better than another jew if that Jew is a “bottom feeder” who does not work. Work and financial responsibility are the sole arbiters(pun intended) of what you respect and disrespect. They could be ochlei nevelos mechalel shabbos and boelei niddos, but you do not look down on these “personal choices” since they are a productive member of society.
My view of your view – if.we go with the idea that we can know if we’re better than someone else, then we would only use the Torah ls value system, and not whether or not someone is productive, to determine it.
Philosopher; I’m not discussing being dan lechaf zchus. If I know someone eats treif, and I see them eating a food from a McDonald’s bag, i will not be dan lechaf zchus that he is using the oaper bag to store kosher food. What i am saying has nothing to do with diyun, it has to do with the unknowable definition of who is of a greater value – who is a better person, and that is something that only Hashem can know. Only Hashem knows what I would do if I had this person’s nisyonos, etc..
That being said, recognizing madregos is something we can and should do. I have 15 talmidim. My job as a rebbe is to evaluate each one’s strengths, weaknesses, level lf frumkeit, middos, and other facets of their personality. That doesn’t mean I think that one kid is “better”, or that I was a better kid than they are.
I agree that a grown man who plays video games all day etc, is going through a mental health crisis. I believe the castigation made by commonsaychel is exceptionally harsh and hurtful to people who struggle with lack of motivation, depression, anxiety, etc…. people like this who look down on others only make it harder for people like that to get better or feel better about themselves, which will result in motivation and self esteem.
People who are insensitive to depression and share their displeasure with sufferers only serve to perpetuate the cycle of self loathing and lack of motivation.