Avram, I agree on changing priorities and kids. My kids do not stay in touch with those friends who became non-observant or moved into lax MO circles. Still, something is not right here. If you note, Sephardim seem to have more united communities, with many masorti people who feel like part of am yisrael even if not always observant or learned. Possibly, we suffer the post-haskala shock that we probably need to get over already. Number of reformim, socialists, OO is not that high any more, most non-observant Jews are ignorami rather than apikoiri.
