Better a community that puts up with Chilul Shabbos and not fraud than one that is Machmir beyond needed in every area but gives the man who commits govt fraud for school funds, welfare fraud, bank fraud or tax fraud an Aliyah on Rosh Hashana and throws him a big party when he gets out of prison.
Syag is correct. Theres no point discussing Yiddishkeit with people who other and denigrate those not like them.
B”H I was sent a video of a sports league run by a (not Frum) community group. Approximately 60-70% of the kids are mainstream Frum kids and the rest are not Frum (or a few not Jewish). The kids are randomly split up, not by Frumness. Almost all the coaches are not Frum. B”H there are mainstream Yeshiotherpe parents that have retained a sense of normalcy. One picture that warms my heart is a Frum boy with a velvet yarmulke and a not Frum coach with long hair talking to him with his hand on his shoulder. Do you think the coach was telling him to not be Frum? Do you think when a Frum and not Frum boy are on the sidelines they’re discussing religion? It’s great seeing Frum and not Frum boys smiling with their arms around each other. It teaches both sides how to get along with each other and will serve them both well in the future.
