Reply To: nichum aveilim when one doesn’t know the niftar/family

to each their own, i guess. i personally hated when ppl asked me such questions when I sat shiva. Luckily for me, I wasn’t shy to just disappear into a different room and nor remain captive in others’ hands. but at the menachems’ side of things i feel awkward. I’m not going to command someone to tell me anything. i do just keep it brief but it’s awkward, as if I’m supposed to be doing/saying something more, but am not.

“I’ll go sign up for some mishnayes…” thanks, that is good advice.

@anonomous jew ur sure your rav told you after shiva and not after shloshim? the torah [navi] tells it to us on the pasig of “vaacharisam keyom mar,” I think.