Reply To: The process of asking for money for a wedding

According to ujm, I guess we’re not traditional. When our daughter got married, we did not give the Chatan a dowry. We paid for half the wedding. (The Chatan’s parents are still living in the U.S.; we pretty much split wedding and transportation costs down the middle. We had the Shabbat sheva brachot in our home city.) We did not buy them an apartment, nor did we pay their rent. We didn’t buy them a car, or pay for their monthly groceries, or anything like that. Both kids worked before they married, and both work now, and the son-in-law continues to study for his Master’s. I find the “requirement” to buy an apartment quite distasteful.