Those of us who believe that a modicum of financial independence is a condition precedent to kiddushin are clearly in a minority. However, as others have noted, forcing the parents to wander around the beis medrash or going door-to-door begging strangers for funds to purchase housing for their kids or pay the caterer would appear to be a self-inflicted form of humiliation for parents who should “just say no”. Definitely assist within your means but don’t jeopardize your own economic well being.
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