Reply To: The process of asking for money for a wedding

Reb Yosef: Can the beis din “force” the parents to pay for the chassanah and a dirah in in one of the nicer neighborhoods?
On a serious note, are you aware of any contemporary beis din that has attempted to enforce the admonition of the mishna in Pirkei Avos? A bit unclear how such a psak would be enforced against an unwilling bochur. Would the beis din retain a shadchan (in the manner that a secular court may sometimes retain its own counsel and expert advisors) and then haul in a reluctant bochur and his “un-beschert” with the av beis din being mesader kiddushin)?