Around and around we go…
This reminds me of a shmuzz from rabbi Bentzion shafier. He gave a speech to women about not fixing their husbands and respecting them for who they are. Afterwards, many women thanked him for the inspiring speech… And asked him “but how do i fix my husband?”
Why are you learning mussar from 12 steps when you can learn it from sifrei kodesh, from tzadikim who are experts in Jewish middos, and the fight against the yatzer hora. Why go to something designed for mentally ill individuals??