Dear Far,
It’s not a Torah thing. The real world is full of negative interventions and negative outcomes. Realizing that big parts of our existence just isn’t so great, is not at all problematic. Being paralyzed and useless while mulling over some negative happenstance, will make anybody less effective. And people do not take well to such emotions.
You ask how to deal with pentup negative thoughts and feelings. Here are five choices:
A) Ignore everything. If it’s out your hands, it’s none of your business.
B) Live in a fantasy. Whatever negative happens is only because of those who don’t share your fantasy.
C) Be positive about hating everything that is negative and speak out against It. You can have the anti negativity pulpit.
D) Deny that negativity exists. Truly believe that everything is really great.
E) Resolve to rid Earth of anything that may bring about a negative attitude.
For each option there is a corresponding ‘Torah’ value:
A) Hashem is in charge. Just daven.
B) Real Jews are not at all ____ . (Fill in the blank with the word ‘negative’.) If your being ____ , you belong in that other jewish community.
C) Make your most noticed weakness or most massive trait, into the entire meaning of Judaism. Hashem just wants to test us.
D) Hashem made it all perfect. We just have to believe that it is so.
E) We are here on Earth to to serve it’s fulfillment. Anything that get’s in the way of that is our obligation to make it serve Hashem.
Sorry for stealing your juice, put the point of my post is to demonstrate the silliness of trying to ground a personal outlook in the larger scope of Judaism. All five of these examples are much closer to each other in their outlook, than they will ever admit.
Sorry to leave you at this, but it’s much more negative than we even realize. Most people are in denial or are just coping with it. I can’t say that being negative is worse than being in denial. But still, getting stuck in any emotional state is counter-productive.
The real way to always be productive, is to find what would be worthwhile no matter what outcomes you may experience.