Dofi, let’s go this route instead.
When you think of frum jews who engage in improper business deals, keep their wives chained as agunos, and other things, do you feel malice towards them? If so, are you still capable of loving them,and if so, why not? Why are they different than people who violate the Torah in other ways?
Or is it only certain prohibitions that you’re comfortable with accepting as people you can love and feel compassion for?
Where is the line drawn? Between mitzvos that are ben Odom lemakom and ben adam lechavero? If so, do you feel able to love a modern orthodox jew who takes jews to court? And if so, why is that different?
Take some time to think about what I’m saying without a knee jerk reaction. What I’m saying is that to love other jews, you need to be accepting of their faults, but not oblivious to them. It’s a level of real ahavas yisroel. Because the alternative is to only love jews who you personally think are ok and spur whoever you decide isn’t.