Aaq, some of what you said warrants a response, but you’re also making a tremendous amount of assumptions.
When i said 1% is negative, that doesn’t translate to 1% charedi vs MO ideology. It means that i only talk about onshim, gehinnom, consequences of sin, 1% of the time. Most of the time is positivity.
And do you think i sit there and talk about hashkofa all day? I have a curriculum. And it’s mishnayos, gemara, chumash, halacha, mesilas yeshorim, and navi. That’s what class is about. I have no idea how accomplishing a curriculum could be stealing larents’ money. If a rebbe shmoozed with kids about sports during class for 5 minutes, would you want money back for that too? It’s a ridiculous starting point.
As for parents not wanting XYZ – what i teach is no secret. Let them go somewhere else if the kid comes home and mentions an ohr hachaim that the father disapproves of. Not my problem. I send home sheets all the time; I’ve never had a problem with a parent calling up and saying that I’m teaching fantacism
And no, I’m not interested in quoting norman lamm together with the beis halevi, or other seforim i use. No sefer i quote from is not known to hanhallah. They have no issue with any of it. I don’t tell them rav tzvi kaplan’s statements about the mishpacha magazine, however; you have to know your audience. The kids love kabalah oriented stories, which at first hanhallah was a little put off to(i.e. kav hayashar) but they ultimately decided it was fine.
I don’t tell them not to go to college. I do encourage them to devote as much of their free time as they can to learn, and to spend time with their friends as well. When a boy gets into learning, 9 times out of 10 they’re not itching to go to collegw anyway. And I’m not even anti college to begin with.
I’ve clashed with parents over a few things, but almost always they come to thank me at the end of the year. My class acts differently than the rest of the school, without any “in your face” behavior. Wearing yarmulkes when playing ball, for one. Not eating unchecked, infested fresh fruitscame up once or twice. Staying off of smartphones is something hanhallah is very supportive of..parents, not as much. They want the easy babysitting. Hanhallah does want them on the internet for schoolwork, and that’s something I can’t do much about, and I’m quiet about it.
But I’ve never had a parent complain of chutzpa, as in the kid acting arrogantly over his torah knowledge or observance. Like i said, derech eretz is a huge deal in my lessons, and it’s something they see from me practically.